Sunday, 18 January 2009

Times of Change

Right, I'm finally starting to feel better, but what a slog it's been! And straightaway we're thrown into a period of change as my husband is now without a job as of last week. Trying to look at this in a positive frame of mind, I think it's a good thing as it allows us to re-assess what he wants to do i life and what I want to do in life and how we might move a little closer towards that. But it is also frustrating as we obviously also have to cover the bills and I'm always amazed and down-hearted at just how big those bills are - even when we try to live as frugally as possible, never buy anything new, re-use, recycle and all that kind of stuff. I suppose I always forget that there are 4 of us (and the cat!) now. In my head it's still 1992 and only me.
So, given that in theory, we could do anything, what do we choose to do to make a living? Argh! It's too hard. I don't know what I want to do when I grow up! I think I'm pretty good at seeing to the kids and the house, so that has to remain my main priority, and I do have my current job for AQA but it's barely more than minimum wage and I would really like to do something a bit more skilled and fulfilling, as well as a bit better paid. I'm interested in training as a doula but that's not very compatible with being the main carer for 2 home educated children so I guess that ahs to go on the back burner until the children are pretty much independent during the day - 10 or so years probably.
I've looked into doing classes for Tatty Bumpkin but I don't think it's really me. What I really fancy is working on a one-to-one basis with people helping them to change their lives for the better and supporting them through changes, helping them come up with ideas and choosing the ones which suit them best. I think maybe (?) I might be good at this, I certainly do it regularly on an informal basis with friends. I guess this is what's called 'life coaching' which is an awful new agey kind of name which makes me cringe. But I don;t know how to get into it - you don;t need any qualifications to set yourself up as a life coach, but obviously, if I was going to do this, I'd want to do it properly and be a respectable one. There are so many charlatans out there offering courses in ti though that it's hard to tell the wood from the trees. And it's also potentially expensive and time-consuming to train. And would anyone actually pay me real money for my services when I was qualified? I don;t know. I'm needing to do a lot more research and am feeling a bit overwhelmed right now. How to fit everything in? And it doesn't really help with the original question of how to sort out our currently working lives so that we're all happier and we also pay the bills. Sigh. Thank you for bearing with this long ramble...


sue said...

I wish I had a magic wand, but to be honest it would probably be very worn out by now anyway, just wanted to send hugs and hope everything turns out ok :)

sue xx

bethnoir said...

I too hope that solutions present themselves which will make everyone happy. Sending good vibes.