tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054275342036789468.post1587911819657864374..comments2023-09-21T01:29:38.593-07:00Comments on Honour & Inspiration: Books I've been readingLizhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01354606225242312518noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054275342036789468.post-23171190351420428722009-09-02T15:08:25.555-07:002009-09-02T15:08:25.555-07:00oh....see what I mean..you HAVE read Idle Parent, ...oh....see what I mean..you HAVE read Idle Parent, sorry....Evans familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06658545228256638488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054275342036789468.post-41019574903986508602009-09-02T15:07:09.458-07:002009-09-02T15:07:09.458-07:00apologies for the spelling mistakes...I really mus...apologies for the spelling mistakes...I really must go to bed earlier....lolEvans familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06658545228256638488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054275342036789468.post-90422575614419784992009-09-02T15:06:10.065-07:002009-09-02T15:06:10.065-07:00great reviews of the books you have been reading, ...great reviews of the books you have been reading, as you said your sefl, and I agree, it is so refreshing to hear of people with simialr ideas as your self. We / I very much seem to follow the same train of thoughts as yourself. I did like the TH books..have you read. the Idle parent, thats one of his too. Winning paretn, winning child, I found I juct coulnt get to grips with that one, might try again though, love the theory of it....BBEvans familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06658545228256638488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054275342036789468.post-586205852521297002009-08-27T09:29:57.001-07:002009-08-27T09:29:57.001-07:00I agree with your summation of the Continuum Conce...I agree with your summation of the Continuum Concept though I haven't read the other books. This might sound very boring, but I tend to think that what a lot of these parenting-book authors lack is a bit of plain old common sense. Sometimes I wonder if they live in the same world as the rest of us. You are entirely right to have some basic ground rules. And I will not be letting my daughter run around with red hot brands as Jean Liedloff suggests you should.Cave Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08489375502067939290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054275342036789468.post-72425262090457611212009-08-25T12:53:29.306-07:002009-08-25T12:53:29.306-07:00Interesting reviews there. I haven't read any...Interesting reviews there. I haven't read any of TH's books, mainly because I get annoyed with well off folk telling us how good it is to live simply and how wonderful life is when you just lie around with a beer in your hand etc, etc, - very narrow minded of me I know but...<br />I did not get on with the CC - despite all the reviews saying what a life changing book it is. As you say - as long as you fit in with the cultural norms - also, from what I recall, they all seemed to spend quite a lot of their time drunk! <br />I have read one of JFW's books, but we already use what i now know to be TTC when practical - i.e We ask ourselves - does this matter in the scheme of things? Sometimes it doesn't, but sometimes it does and we have to take charge, despite the consequences. I really don't think my 2 year old will be irrevocable damaged by that. There are so many parenting books out there, but none of them really know me or my children, so ...Jacquihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01659012917888444554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054275342036789468.post-9621053803502130892009-08-25T11:19:07.192-07:002009-08-25T11:19:07.192-07:00Thanks for the reviews Liz. I had similar feelings...Thanks for the reviews Liz. I had similar feelings about the continuum concept. Have yet to read anything by Jsan Fortune Wood but have her books on my wishlist. I can relate to what you are saying though. I felt that way after reading Dayna Martin's stuff and exploring radical unschooling. I can't always find win-win situations and i do feel like a failure in those cases. But you are right, it is something to aim for at ealst. You definitely aren't the only one who feels like that. :-)Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01522140630879522066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054275342036789468.post-9160014391246603262009-08-25T07:42:18.072-07:002009-08-25T07:42:18.072-07:00Thank you Sarah, I was worrying I would be flamed ...Thank you Sarah, I was worrying I would be flamed for my views on this! I think that you have a similar approach to us, in that, you know your children thoroughly, try to parent gently, try to inquire into problems and encourage solutions which suit everyone in the family, but at the bottom line you have some rules which you make happen if need be - do I have that right?<br />The TCS approach does make me feel like a failure because I just can't make it work for us and according to them, that's *my* personal failing.Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01354606225242312518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054275342036789468.post-17347617921057147172009-08-25T03:20:57.176-07:002009-08-25T03:20:57.176-07:00Once again I think you've just summed up my th...Once again I think you've just summed up my thinking about those authors also! <br /><br />Something that bothers me in general about many parenting books is the attitude that as parents we MAKE our. If they are easy it is because we are following the right method. If they are difficult then we are not meeting their needs! It is a denial of their individuality to believe that we can take all of the credit or all of the blame.<br /><br />That was a long way of saying that I totally get why you now have the voice of TCS in your head every time consensus can't be reached, and I think that as an approach it is very low on parental support and encouragement. ;)arwen_tiwhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13190775746566710752noreply@blogger.com